tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-181167438841043720.post367866253555270373..comments2013-12-06T20:45:18.647+11:00Comments on mamma made it: Moving onAnsiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06211680566519997686noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-181167438841043720.post-73135847726594575282010-01-15T22:57:22.475+11:002010-01-15T22:57:22.475+11:00Leah, I'm not always sure where exactly these ...Leah, I'm not always sure where exactly these expectations are coming from. <br />Sure, there are days when I am hard on myself and I just want to get on with it - feel better. Some days I expect me to wake up and feel better and I get very down when by the end of the day I am left in a crumbly heap once again.<br /><br />But then there are people who, not by their words, show me that they are sick of my story, sick of my tears. For these people my grief makes them uncomfortable and it means they have to face their own immortality. Grief is very selfish. Grieving people are very selfish. Sometimes I get why people need me to move on. Its hard work. <br />I also think that there are some people (and I am talking very generally here) who want to 'fix' everything. Fix my house, fix the kids, fix the car, fix me. The problem though is that this is the one problem to which there is no earthly solution. Nothing makes it better. Nothing brings him back. For fixers thats hard.Ansiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06211680566519997686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-181167438841043720.post-27762312254910189962010-01-15T22:36:13.991+11:002010-01-15T22:36:13.991+11:00Are these expectations coming from yourself, or ot...Are these expectations coming from yourself, or other people??<br /><br />I'd be horrified if other people were expecting you to 'move on' by now. That's awful.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17403983176561111203noreply@blogger.com